By Amara Charles
Author of The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka
Founder of Deeply Bonded Love
Private Mentoring and Intimacy Retreats
Sexual intelligence is not about how many techniques you know or how many partners you've had. It's about becoming more aware of the subtle energies that create magnetic attraction between lovers.
The first key to activating Sexual Intelligence is learning to recognize different levels of sexual energy. Just as we experience varying degrees of hunger - from slightly peckish to ravenous - we also experience different intensities of sexual desire.
Understanding these levels helps us communicate more clearly with our partners and make better choices about when and how to engage sexually.
Here are the Seven Levels of Sexual Energy:
Level One: Neutral
This is our baseline - when sex isn't on our minds at all. We're focused on other things: work, errands, daily tasks. This neutral state is natural and necessary.
Level Two: Awareness
We begin noticing attractive qualities in others or feeling slightly aroused. There's no urgent desire, just a pleasant awareness of sexual potential.
Level Three: Interest
Our attention becomes more focused. We might feel flirtatious or playful. There's a light spark of desire, but it's easy to shift attention elsewhere if needed.
Level Four: Attraction
The energy becomes more magnetic. We feel drawn toward someone specific. Our body starts responding with subtle signs of arousal.
Level Five: Desire
This is where the energy becomes clearly sexual. We feel strong physical attraction and emotional connection. Our body shows clear signs of arousal.
Level Six: Passion
The energy is intense and focused. We feel powerful urges to connect sexually. It becomes harder to think about anything else.
Level Seven: Ecstasy
This is the peak of sexual energy - total immersion in erotic pleasure. We lose track of time and space, experiencing profound states of union and bliss.
Understanding these levels helps us:
• Communicate more clearly with partners about our desires
• Make conscious choices about when to act on sexual feelings
• Build sexual tension skilfully
• Know when to slow down or speed up
• Create more satisfying sexual experiences
Sexual Intelligence also involves:
1. Body Awareness
Learning to read your body's signals and understand your natural rhythms of desire.
2. Emotional Intelligence
Understanding how emotions affect sexual energy and learning to process feelings in healthy ways.
3. Energy Management
Knowing how to build, contain and direct sexual energy constructively.
4. Clear Communication
Being able to express desires and boundaries clearly and listen deeply to partners.
5. Spiritual Connection
Recognizing sex as a gateway to deeper spiritual experiences and personal growth.
Developing Sexual Intelligence is a lifelong journey. It's not about reaching some ideal state but about becoming more aware, more present, and more skilful in how we relate sexually.
The rewards of developing Sexual Intelligence include:
• More fulfilling intimate relationships
• Greater sexual satisfaction
• Better communication with partners
• Deeper spiritual connection
• Enhanced overall wellbeing
• More vitality and creativity in all areas of life
Remember: Sexual Intelligence isn't about performance or conquest. It's about becoming more conscious of this powerful force within us and learning to channel it wisely for our highest good and the good of others.
In beauty,
Amara Charles
www.amaracharles.com
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